Boundaries

Relationship Boundary 1:

Don't ever step to me with a conversation about my life if I have never told you directly! Warning you might get your head chopped off. Evidently, I didn't feel the need to share my personal space with you. You have not been granted the privilege or access to my life in that particular capacity. You need to stay in your own lane. Life always has a way of working itself out. So, what you think you know may or may not be tomorrows current reality. You see life is full of complexities and is always subject to change. Those who share other people's stuff without their consent or knowledge can't be trusted in positions of power or leadership. Yet, they are the very people who desperately want and seek after leadership positions. Imagine that... 

Relationship Boundary 2: 

If, someone comes to me with someone's personal stuff. I put them directly on the spot and ask did that individual give you permission to share; before I sit down and listen to them. They may have told you in strict confidence. Therefore, in order to honor that space respect their confidentiality. I might even say, I prefer to hear that type of information directly from them given they are not here to verify the authenticity of what has been stated. When I was in a successful leadership/ a managerial position that I held over 50 people for seven years. I told them they could "Never "come to me under any uncertain circumstances to divulge someone else's shortcomings without me bringing them directly in the room with the person they were referring to. So, my disposition is if you are bold enough spread the news, gossip or concerns then be man enough to handle the dragon of confrontation. If, not I strongly suggest keeping quiet. They say silence is golden for a reason...