Removing The Shame of Financial Loss

Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. When shame is not dealt with properly it can lead to paralysis; the inability to move past the incident or experience. Shame is often masked by the feeling of insecurity, unworthiness, and inadequacy. It causes one to feel undeserving and self-critical. I want to talk about shame from a different perspective. What does shame feel or look like when you lose all your possessions after you’ve done the ethical and unimpeachable thing?  

The impact of shame endured due to a financial loss is quite different than the shame suffered because of other circumstances. I am not here to negate or marginalize any form of shame. I only want to help people from a place of financial loss when one's situation is made public.   

These Never Do Business Hungry teachable courses are designed to gain the tools necessary to become resilience and make proper financial decisions. Each season requires different strategies. The first course dealt with Living Through See-Nothing Days. The course and lectures will walk you through the various challenges encountered in each season. Learn how to develop resilience, the value of haste versus urgency, remove distractions, the challenges of wolves, and how to survive a wilderness season. There are different approaches taken in the winter versus the springtime. 

The upcoming course Blindsided by Expenses deals with Taking Responsibility, Budget versus Audit and dealing with various fiduciary requirements.  As a backdrop, you need to know the courses are uniquely designed to include three types of learning styles.  The Kinesthetic Learner a hands-on learner those who learn by doing. The Auditory Learner those who learn by listening through sound. The Visual Learner those who memorize things by seeing them on paper and would rather watch, than talk or do.  

Just know, what was meant to destroy me by unwarranted false accusations and public shame has become the platform for recovery. The courses in teachable will provide the tools necessary for spiritual and financial recovery. The objective is to disclose information only certain people are made privy to in order to help disenfranchised clients meet mandatory auditing requirements. 

The purpose of the course(s) is to meet the necessary guidelines to sustain what one has created. The course(s) will help those who are struggling, afraid, scared, blackballed, or shamed to NEVER experience the unjustifiable loss by others because of failure to build and protect what one has created in the marketplace.

INFLUENCE VERSUS FAME

Let me address the dangers of confusing influence with the insignificance of fame. For those who don’t understand what fame is rooted in and how it can and will eventually destroy your life.  “Fame is an outward representation of distorted fallacies driven by seeking recognition, whereas influence is governed by authority and established with one’s character.” Lori M.

Here is my acronym for F.A.M.E.

§  F = False and fictitious statements to hide your motives

§  A = Accolades and acclamations for those seeking special honor or acknowledgments

§  M = Mindless agenda — done without justification, concern, or consequences. Its primary focus is oneself no one else— it’s all about me.

§  E = It’s being governed by external factors. Everyone comes after your needs. 

  

The fact of the matter is that you have a heart issue. You do not have the reverence of the Lord in your heart. Your behavior is determined solely by your preference, that is, to prefer one alternative over the other. Preferences allow you to select or modify your preferences, while beliefs remain unaltered. Without character, you will compromise by justifying your decisions. This deception will eventually cause one to operate in situational ethics and compromise truth for a temporary circumstance. I am guilty as charged for going after things God never permitted me to have. I had to let go of pride and idolatry.

God doesn’t need to be famous, nor does he need you to help him become famous, nor is it your job to make him famous. Jesus never sought praise or adoration. Study the gospels, Jesus removed himself from people who tried to praise him. Being Famous is being well-known or popular. It’s appalling that we have reduced the name of Jesus to fame, a word that signifies popularity. The present-day church consists of ‘well-known’ preachers, teachers, and prophets who have been glorified and praised, yet lack character, substance, depth, and reverential 

fear of the Lord.

Whether you know my God, serve my God, or believe in my God, it will never negate his authority and the power of his (Might) influence. We must learn fame does not equate to power. We have assumed having fame means being an authority. Authority is the power or right to give orders, make decisions and enforce obedience. Your title, position, or wealth will not grant you Godly influence when you have a platform rooted in fame. 

People are seeking fame, thinking it automatically comes with authority. “Fame is entrenched in approval trapped in social media outlets.” Society has confused followers and likes on FB, Instagram, and Twitter with the power of influence. Just because you are famous doesn’t mean you have authority. Study (1 Samuel 15:10-35) King Saul had many followers, yet his kingdom was stripped and given to David. He also committed suicide because fame was more important than obeying God’s word. Don’t let your drivenness for fame cause you to commit spiritual suicide.  

People have ignorantly trusted false teachers, false preachers, and false prophets. The issue with this kind of immature behavior is that we enter into contracts, relationships, or contractual spiritual relationships with people who have failed to tell the truth. It causes one to enter into a fraudulent misrepresentation. It’s when one (your pastor) knowingly makes an untrue statement of the facts; that induces or denies the other party to enter into a proper (integral) agreement.

Over time these unscrupulous dishonest, crooked, deceitful, and corrupt teachings will lead to negligent misrepresentations. There is a duty to ensure that reasonable care is taken into consideration as regards the accuracy of any dissemination of God’s word. There are numerous unsubstantiated claims made by individuals who lack the necessary qualifications to serve in leadership positions. The late Dr. Myles Munroe taught our church firsthand to stay out of the pulpit if; you can't control your food, drink, or sexual behavior stay out of the pulpit. It's the bible, not the man’s opinion. Study the book of Titus for ministry qualifications.

The Bible clearly states many are called, and a few are chosen. A warning to those who teach grace as a substitute for responsibility. My idolatry cost me years of stripping away brokenness and putting my flesh on the altar daily. The blood of Jesus removed my sin because Jesus Christ paid the price. Grace is the power to become whole and walk in integrity after we have repented from sin. Being sorry or getting caught is not repentance. Repentance is a behavior change. Grace does not give one permission to keep sinning, nor does it remove the consequences of deliberate disobedience. It does take away the condemnation for the sin committed. Grace allows one to become empowered to overcome our sinful nature.

Make no mistake; for every seed sown, there is a harvest. You don’t get to write a tithing check for your sin and think God will bless your mess. God does not co-sign sin. The real deception is failing to remove sin from one's heart. It’s not the outward appearance that matters. You must learn to live through the consequences of wrong behavior, or you will never appreciate the power of grace. You will confuse fame, popularity, and likes with authority as well as the power and purpose of Influence. 

Peace and Love, Lori M.